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  Birthday Wishes Welcome!

  by LifesNotOver in

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  many of you don't know me or won't remember me.

  i left the jw's and my husband and my home last september - forging a new life in a new town.

  i haven't posted here for many months, but have been reading most days.

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  Happy Birthday! I remember your posts and am glad things are looking up.

  ❤️🎂🍻 hope it's a great day for you.
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  The handling of child abuse allegations

  by Landy in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  there's a lot of criticism surrounding the jw's handling of chiild abuse within their ranks with a lot of it being well deserved.

  but i'm interested to know how people on here think child abuse allegations should be handled.

  there's a few scenarios below, the first couple are easy then it gets a bit more complex.

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  Call the police, let them investigate. My husband is also in a profession where he has to report even a suspicion of abuse. It's up to the police to investigate, not people who have no training or experience. The police in my area take abuse seriously and go to training, host seminars on how to protect children.
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  Why do you get upset about family shunning you?

  by mr_doubtful in

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  2. bible

  i understand people love their family but i also don't understand why you end up caring in the end.

  i'm ready to leave and i 100% don't expecting my family to have any contact with me nor do i want them to contact me.

  if they are going to chose a man made religion over me, that's their choice and i will sleep easy at night.

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  I can understand where you are coming from. Because when I was leaving I knew I had to steel myself for the repercussions. I had to let go of the normal affection I would have had for my family, because it really did come down to me or them. I chose my freedom, I have told my siblings when they want to act like normal human beings they can be part of my life, until then I don't want to hear it. My parents learned to act like normal human beings and are now part of my life again.
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  Conditional Love

  by Saethydd in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i've noticed several posts recently claiming that jw friends and family members give out conditional love.

  well, i'm not so sure that is entirely accurate, in fact, i would say they tend to be very steadfast in their love.

  the issue is this, they have been taught a poor form of love.

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  Their love is conditioned upon being a member of their religious organization and is therefore conditional.
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  My families shunning has gone to a whole new level

  by pale.emperor in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  8 months df'd.

  loving a life of freedom.

  however, my family are all shunning me.

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  Sorry things have taken this turn. In my experience with my own family, playing the victim gets them attention. They claim to be victims of your actions when in reality they are making themselves out to be victims by their own self imposed bad behavior.

  I decided a long time ago to cut ties with my family due to their bad behavior. Many years later I have relationship with my parents, but not my siblings. The reason: I won't put up with their bad behavior blamed on someone else. The only way I eventually got through to my parents was to cut them off completely, no calls, no texts, no emails. I didn't tell them when I moved even.

  By your mother telling everyone you are dead you can see the manipulation of everyone she tells. It's all one big manipulation, don't play into it. Walk away, make new friends.
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  Witnesses really hate it when you appear to leave.

  by schnell in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have a certain customer, whom we will call sally.

  i know sally only by face and only through work.

  i am a truck driver on a local dedicated route, and i often deliver to her work.

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  Doubtfully yours - that is sooooo true. They love it when things go badly for someone who has left. Without realizing that the reason some do poorly or make poor choices is because they are il-equipped to deal with losing everyone and everything. When you don't implode - they don't quite know what to do. Except giving you dirty looks when they see you 😀
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  Witnesses really hate it when you appear to leave.

  by schnell in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have a certain customer, whom we will call sally.

  i know sally only by face and only through work.

  i am a truck driver on a local dedicated route, and i often deliver to her work.

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  It's funny because when I first left JWs said some awful things about me. I graduated college, got married(stayed married), have a great job etc. they can't hold me up as an example of what happens to you if you leave. My own siblings are hateful for no reason, they look sad and tired. I am happy and it makes them crazy.
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  What did you regrettably not do because you were a Jehovah's Witness ?

  by minimus in

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  2. friends

  jehovah's witnesses cannot do a lot of things.

  i remember pioneers having to quit their jobs because they could not work in a convenience store and sell cigarettes.

  i know of a young man who was offered a scholarship to any college or university if he wanted to go to because of his football abilities.

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  I regret not having all the fun memories from being a child that others do. I regret not taking a scholarship when I graduated high school. I did get another scholarship 10 years later, and got my Bachelors degree then, so it all worked out.
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  This site should be called Anti-Jehovahs-Witnesses Cry-babies

  by the-Question in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so, you left because of a bad example(s).. why all the whining?

  nothing better to do with your time?.

  you at least know far more about the bible than any church-goer?.

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  It is very JW of you to think you know why each of us left. They tend to think it's either someone "stumbled us" or because of sin.

  I didn't leave for either of those reasons nor do I whine about anything. I don't go to church either, because it's all a crock of shit. Different churches, including Jehovah's witnesses all think they have the one and only true religion and the only pathway to God is to live my life the way they say. Your opinion matters as much as anyone else's - it doesn't.
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  So, the Womens March ... What Is It For?

  by Simon in

  1. social
  2. current

  it seems like mobilizing after the election, which seems pointless.

  i keep hearing demands for equal rights but don't understand what rights they are missing exactly.. normally a march is to show the support (and potential votes) for a cause, but ... votes for what?

  ... and the election happened already.. is anyone else confused?

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  The vile things being spouted by some of the speakers at the March were just as shocking as what Trump said.

  I don't condone what Trump said, but I also don't think protesting vulgarity by being vulgar is the way to bring attention to a cause.